Friday, October 10, 2014

Being a man – not so easy in a woman’s world

Believe it or not… it is true. This article is dedicated to all those wonderful guys we know. They are our friends, colleagues, relatives – amazing, sweet, loving guys who selfish bitches like ourselves always fail to recognize.

Being an independent, self reliant woman is really tough. All women in this category will agree. We struggle everywhere to make ourselves heard – at work, at home, and everywhere else. We struggle, day and night. We watch as our bosses readily take the same advice earlier given by ourselves from male colleagues, we watch as male colleagues judge divorced women from other teams – knowing fully well that the women are really sweethearts. We watch as they mess up FB entries of women totally out of their league, and we watch as men on the streets abuse their wives or daughters. We watch – and we grow angry. A relentless, growing anger that is like a bottomless pit – there seems to be no respite. And it is this anger which makes us summon up all of our defenses. An anger so great, so strong, so vivid, that we completely forget that not all men are jackasses.

I am now talking about men who are struggling – to live in a world full of women like ourselves. Men, who have to constantly battle our distrust. Men, who realize that bimbos are not worth their time, that smart, independent are fantastic, men who even appreciate women and their achievements, who treat us as their equals. Unfortunately, we never acknowledge them. These are your friends, your brothers, your father, your colleagues – just look around you, they are everywhere. Sweet, uncomplicated guys, whose lives we screw with in our anger.

These are the men who truly and honestly believe that there is absolutely no difference between themselves and women (except of course, biologically). These are men, who understand (vaguely, albeit), how annoying menstrual cramps can be, and exactly how we feel when it comes to shopping, love, sweets, or babies. These are guys who are sensitive to feelings, and although they may show it poorly – they do care. These are the guys who will make complete fools of themselves just to see you smile on a difficult day. The guys, who will hold your hand and tell you to not worry when you are dying in pain. The guys, who will tell you funny stories when you are low. Guys, who will tell you that you are wonderful, no matter how badly you may have misbehaved. Guys, who will drive you home safely (without acting condescending) when you are drunk out of your brains (even if they may not support drinking). Men, who love you no matter what. Men, to whom you shall always be a princess. Men, who will stick by you no matter what. You grow a beard, have a child out of wedlock, have a tantrum and yell obscenities, give up your job, lose yourself over heartbreak – it just doesn't matter. They will be there for you.

But what do we do? We take these guys for granted. Even if there was ONE stupid occasion when we called them and they couldn't answer or couldn't show up – we put them in the “jackass” files. We completely forget all those times when they were there for us. We think “Ah, he’s a guy. They are all the same”. Thoughts like “Oh common, he’s human, he deserves a life, a second chance” are generally reserved by us for idiots who have a record of ruining our lives with their chapters of jerk-itude. Why do we think this way? Why can’t we reverse the treatment? What the hell is wrong with us? Why do we behave like men with wonderful guys, and like pathetic whining slobs with complete jerks?

If you are reading this, and if there is even one guy (or man) coming into your brain, then count your blessings. There are a lot of women in this world who have known nothing but rejection, pain and abandonment. There are more women, who have lost people – people who couldn't handle their personalities under certain circumstances. Count your blessings – if you have found even one. This man is leading a difficult life. He loves, worships & adores you – and his guy friends - the MCPs - probably think he is a weenie, at least as far as you are concerned. However, it doesn't change his beliefs, or the way he thinks about you. Prize him, love him, thank him, and don’t ever hurt him – cuz you can’t afford to lose him.

I am very lucky – I have a lot of wonderful guys in my life. My dad, my bro-in-law, some of my colleagues & my buddies – there are no words to describe how much I love you all. Thank you for being you.



You make me feel special.